Avoid Saying These Things to Grieving Families at Funeral Homes

brad.speaks • January 3, 2022

There are certain things that you just shouldn’t say to grieving families at funeral homes. Find out about some of the things you should avoid saying to them in this article.

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When you find yourself standing in front of a grieving family at one of the funeral homes in Oak Grove, MO , you might not know exactly what you should say to them. Which words should you use to express your condolences to them? Ideally, you should try to say something like, “I was so sorry to hear about your loss” or “I am going to keep you in my prayers.” These are much better things to say than the things we’re going to talk about with you today. Here are some of the things you should avoid saying to a grieving family at all costs. 


“I know exactly how you feel.” 


If you lost a loved one recently, you might think that telling a grieving family that you know how they feel will help them. But in reality, you don’t know how they feel, even if you just suffered a loss, too. Everyone grieves a little bit differently, and as a result, there is no way for you to know how a grieving family is feeling. So you shouldn’t attempt to sympathize with them by saying something like this at their loved one’s Oak Grove, MO funeral services. 

 

“At least he/she is in a better place.” 


When you tell a grieving family that their loved one is “in a better place,” you might be under the impression that this is going to make them feel better. But the truth is that all it’s usually going to do is remind them that their loved one isn’t here with them anymore. And this could make them feel even worse than they already do. You obviously don’t want to make them feel this way, so you should steer clear of saying anything like this to them. 


“You’ll be OK.” 


A grieving family is going to be OK one day. In the weeks, months, and years to come, they’ll mourn their loved one’s loss and then eventually go through the healing process. But right now, they don’t feel OK, so you shouldn’t focus too much on the future when you speak with them. Instead, you should simply let them know that you’re there for them in their time of need and allow them to go through the natural grieving process one step at a time. 

 

“These things happen.” 


The absolute last thing that you want to do when you’re speaking with a grieving family is downplay the reaction that they’re having to a loved one’s death. And that’s precisely what you’re going to do if you say something about death being inevitable. They know this already, and it’s not going to do them any good if you remind them of it. You should try not to say something like this and find more comforting words to send in their direction. 

 

At Speaks Chapels, we know how hard it can be for families to make funeral arrangements for their loved ones when they’re grieving. It’s why we go above and beyond to assist these families at our Oak Grove, MO funeral home. Call us today to see what we can do to help your family as you grieve the loss of a loved one.

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